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| When black really means beautiful# |
First and fore most African women my age now went through a period where dark skinned people were looked down upon awfully.
It would sometimes reach an extent where you will be called 'black mamba', a name for a vicious venom spitting snake.
Imagine you being referred to something as vicious and dangerous as that, but anywhere little did we know the people who referred us to such were suffering from colonial hangover.
With all the scorn most dark skinned girls like me went through, majority of them succumbed to the pressures and found themselves rushing to local chemists to buy skin-lightening creams.
Others went a mile further by making African concotions in an attempt to make themselves more lighter.
Now that was a period when being black and dark skinned meant you were not beautiful and being light meant you were beautiful.
Let me be quick to say that i almost fell prey to such calls and demands but my mother stood by me and encouraged me to soldier on.
My mother was really a focal point person in my life who encouraged me to keep going with my dark skin and be proud of it.
In her words and i quote "you may look dark now, people myn laugh at you but one thing you should really put your mind to is the beauty,you are very beautiful and you can never change that fact."
"Wait up until you start work and you start having your own money, this black they are laughing at now,they will start admiring it," she said.
Years have passed now, things and times have changed. my friends who took heed to the advise of the manipulators are now regretting, shame!!!!!
Many of them look scary now that their skins look rather too old for their age and are ashamed to even face me.
I wholeheartedly pity them looking at the life time mess they have put themselves into.
As for me, i must admit, no single day passes without someone complimenting my beautiful looks and know how that makes me feel???? wickedly proud of myself*********
Am glad i took heed of my mum's advise and whenever i come out of the house in the morning and there is always that radiance on my face, that does something to me.
So to all my friends out there, no matter the colour of you skin, shape of any part of your body, you can still perfect your imperfections.
If you fail to love yourself, how do you expect others to love you. we were all created in the image of our beloved heavenly father and what he creates, it can never be bad at all.
Identify your weaknesses and strengths and try to work on them and you will discover the amazing things that comes with accepting oneself..
Untill next time....xoxoxoxoxoxoxo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
